How to Build a Strong Network

How to build a strong network from scratch

How to Build a Strong Network from ScratchNetworking is a key skill for anyone with ambition to master.


A network can help you to:

  • achieve greater success in your business
  • progress in your career
  • gain more personal development
  • widen your circle of friends.


A strong network, however, can take you even further!


With a network full of people who know and trust you, you can gain:

  • a solid pipeline of leads and referrals for your business
  • recommendations for speaker engagements
  • more of your professional goals
  • greater inspiration and insights to help you achieve more success than you thought possible.


If you don’t have a strong network yet – here’s how to start!


Get out there!

The best way to build a network is to get out there and meet people. This needn’t be at specific networking events – though these are of course a great place to start.


You can also go to more events and classes that are aligned to your interests and passions and meet people that way. Or perhaps you can sign up for a class to learn something you’ve always wanted to do: a language, woodwork or painting class for example.


You can check out MeetUp, InterNations or a whole host of other websites that list social activities and clubs. Your local phonebook media will also list classes and clubs.


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Make friends online

You can also start meeting people online through social media sites. LinkedIn is a great one for starting professional relationships where Facebook and Snapchat are good for personal friendships.


This can be a great way to meet people who are not local to you, or to find people who are interested in the same things as you.


The two things to remember with building friendships online is to:


take steps to ensure the person is genuine and


act the same as you would if you met the person in real life. Ask questions, share information and take time to really know them, don’t just jump straight in with messages (worse sales messages) that aren’t relevant to that person.


Don’t be tempted to hide online to do all your networking though – relationships that are started face-to-face are usually the strongest. So go for a nice mix of on- and offline networking.

Be open when you network

When meeting people, the most important first step is to have open body language and an engaging smile. You have to look like someone that person wants to get to know better.


Wearing appropriate clothes can help too. Do some research into the event to find out the dress code – if in doubt go for smart dress.


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Be Interesting

Many people get this very wrong. They think that ‘being interesting’ means they have to talk a lot. In fact, it’s completely the opposite!


To be interesting, you should aim to speak only 20% of the time. Let the other person speak and ask lots of questions so you can really get to know them, what interests them and what keeps them up at night. Then you can share stories and information that is 100% relevant to that person – that’s when you become interesting!


For this reason, introverts often make the best networkers!

Be prepared

Before the event, you want to do your homework and research the event and its participants.


Research the event: Whatever the subject of the event is, it’s fair to assume that the people attending the event want to know more about that subject. So do some research beforehand to find and prepare a few relevant facts, stories and news items that you can share or drop into conversation as appropriate.


Study the participant list: Study who will be attending the event, make a short list of who you’d like to meet, and then look them up on LinkedIn or Facebook. This will not only tell you what they look like, so you can find them at the event, but will also tell you what they are interested in so you can prepare some relevant questions for them.


Know your objectives: Is there something you’d like to learn? Someone you’d like to meet? A particular company, market or industry you’d like to know more about? Etc.


Knowing this in advance will help you focus on the right questions, people and actions during the event so you will have better outcomes after the event.


Look for variety in your network

If you want a strong network, you want to be adding people with a wide variety of skills, experiences and backgrounds.


It’s easy to meet people like you, but they don’t always have the breadth of knowledge and experience that will be helpful to you in the different situations you find yourself in throughout your life and career.

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Follow up

The saying ‘The Fortune is in the Follow Up’ does not just apply to salespeople.


While networking is a great way to meet people, it’s only in following up with people after an event that you can build a relationship with people. Having a ‘strong’ network means that you have a list of contacts that know and trust you – so the follow up is key.


It’s near impossible to stay in touch with everyone, so be selective in who you want to build relationships with. All those questions you asked when you met the person the first time will really help you work out who the most valuable people to you are.


Always block some time in your diary to follow up with people after the event. Add everyone you meet to your LinkedIn network with a personal note about how you enjoyed meeting them. In this note, be specific about something you discussed so they know you are genuine – this with help to start building trust.


Beyond your initial follow up, look out for news and stories that might be interesting to specific people in your network and share these on a regular basis.


These anecdotes should be shared with people one an individual basis and not in a group message – unless it’s something you want to use to initiate a discussion amongst the group. You want to keep things personal and specific as much as possible to support the relationship building process.


Have Fun!

Finally, it’s important to have fun while out networking. People always want to stay in touch with people who they enjoy being around and who make them feel special, so always keep this in mind!


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  1. Emily DeBarbieri | Uno Dos Trae on 30 June 2017 at 14:16

    Love the tip about only talking 20% of the time! It’s much more important to find out about the person you’re networking with than to promote yourself. Great article 🙂

    • Melitta Campbell on 3 July 2017 at 11:17

      Thanks Emily! I love this tip too. Being shy, I always felt under pressure to talk a lot, so instead of listening and responding to people, I was always thinking about that to say next and so didn’t really engage with anyone. Once I applied this rule I had a lot more success, people think I’m interesting because I’m focused on what matters to them, and I don’t have to worry about what to say, it all just becomes natural. Good luck!

  2. Jacqueline on 1 July 2017 at 20:11

    I loved this post! Even though I don’t have a problem meeting people. I don’t always follow through with most of the people I meet. I have also been a bit lazy on getting out there and attending different events etc. I did join a couple of groups that I attend twice a week, but I feel I should be doing more.

    • Melitta Campbell on 3 July 2017 at 11:13

      Thanks Jacqueline! I hope these tips will help you when you up level your networking. I can’t recommend following-up enough, it really turns contacts into powerful ambassadors. Let me know how you get on!

  3. Veena on 6 July 2017 at 01:35

    This is such a great list to keep in mind! I love the tip about introverts, so true! Thanks for writing this.

    • Melitta Campbell on 10 July 2017 at 14:11

      Thanks Veena!

  4. Tamara on 23 July 2017 at 07:07

    Great recommendations – if I had to guess I’d say people struggle most with following up?

    • Melitta Campbell on 24 July 2017 at 15:56

      It’s interesting – a few people have said that they struggle with the Follow Up. I think the key is to keep some time aside for follow-ups and to keep a note of your conversations.

      I had a boss once who was amazing at that. He had a file for everyone he met and was religious about keeping notes and being sure to add value to everyone he met – he was a senior executive in a very large company, so had every excuse to be too busy, but it was a habit he had developed and stuck to.

  5. Steven on 25 July 2017 at 15:58

    Great post! Love the comment re talking 20% of the time. People forget that listening is as important, if not more important, than talking! And from experience most people (including myself) are poor at ‘following-up’. Definitely an action I need to think more about!

    • Melitta Campbell on 25 July 2017 at 18:53

      You’re right, it’s easy to get carried away and enjoy the networking event itself, but then not get around to the follow-up – but it really is the most important part. Many of my greatest supporters have come as a result of following up and nurturing the relationship. It can be time-consuming, so it’s worth just focusing on the people where you feel you have a strong connection.

  6. Alvern Bullard on 26 December 2017 at 08:12

    Lovely post Melitta, I have to ask what should be the ideal size of my network? You mentioned adding people with a wide variety of skills and experiences if I am to build a strong network and nurture those relationships then smaller is better as I will not have time to connect with a lot of people on an ongoing basis. What’s a good sized network do you think?

    • Melitta Campbell on 27 December 2017 at 13:13

      Great question Alvern! It’s hard to give an exact figure but, as you say, it’s worth having an inner circle who you take the time to connect with regularly. You’ll soon see which members of your network are worth making that extra effort for. With sites like LinkedIn, it’s easy to keep all your connections close and share content with all of them regularly as a group, then take a bit of extra time for those people who are more responsive and helpful. Good luck!

  7. Cindee on 31 December 2017 at 17:10

    OMG I needed to read this! I was invited to participate in an MLM company and I have been hesitant– sitting on the idea for over a month, actually. My fear of failure is definitely tied to my fear of networking. I have been asking for a sign about if I should begin this venture or decline, and you have made it sound simple enough to say “Yes!” I am a little short on friends these days, too, and you have even covered that. Great post! Now I have to binge on your writing! Thanks!

    • Melitta Campbell on 1 January 2018 at 10:49

      Thanks Cindee, I’m delighted you have found my post helpful! With regards to starting with an MLM company, check out the ‘Meet Melitta’ page for my experience (Hint: It’s an amazing journey that can give you so much more than just an extra income). You may also find my ‘How to choose the Right Home Business for You’ post helpful too. Good luck!

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