You are not your mistakes

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You are not your mistakes

You are not your mistakes Isn’t it funny how just one line in one song can trigger a memory or inspire a whole thought process that takes off on an exciting adventure?


Yesterday my daughters were dancing along to the Robbie Williams track: Love My Life.


Watching them interpret the lyrics with their moves, it was the first time I’d taken the time to properly listen to the words of the song – and I was really touched.


As a parent, I could really relate to the idea of wanting to help others see the beauty and greatness they have within them. (If you don’t know the song, you can listen to it here)

Best of all, they are now singing the chorus around the house. “I am Powerful, I am Beautiful, I am me!” how awesome that, they are repeating these positive affirmations to themselves without even knowing it?!

But there was one line that really stood out for me: “I am not my mistakes”.  

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It reminded me of a very simple, yet very powerful lesson I learned from mindset expert Dave O’Connor a couple of years ago, which has really stuck with me.


Don’t let your past limit your future

During one of his training sessions, he encouraged us to: “Let go of any internal talk and self-beliefs that are no longer relevant or useful to you”.


The idea being that your past does not need to determine your future. What has happened is already in the past, and holding on to negative emotions won’t help you grow into the person you need to be to succeed with your current business or challenges.


This was a revelation – we don’t have to hold onto our mistakes or constantly replay those moments in our past where we felt bad, stupid or hurt. We have a choice and can simply let them go!



You are not your mistakes


We each have the choice to ‘let it go’

I remember thinking “Wow! I can just choose to stop thinking about it?”


Well duh, of course I can. And from that day, I stopped replaying some of the silly things I did in my past that I regretted. And suddenly realised how crazy I’d been to hold onto those things for so long.  But I’m sure I’m not alone.

In fact, I know I’m not. I see it with my children; they let other people upset them with the things they say, and then replay those scene days or sometimes weeks afterwards. We may feel hurt at that moment but we can choose to let go of these feelings and not let them invade our minds and become part of our beliefs.

It sounds simple – and actually, it really is!


Learn the lesson and move on – it’s that simple

Whatever happened in the past is irrelevant. It happened. If it didn’t go well or make you feel proud, then there is a lesson to be learned there. So learn it. Remember the lesson, forget the incident and move on.

Think it’s not that simple? Try it! You’ll be surprised and you might just find that you take a big leap forward as a result.


Not convinced? Watch this!

In case you’re still not convinced – watch this video. It’s a great classic sketch with a very good a point to make – an oldie, but goodie : )



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  1. Jivi on 13 July 2017 at 14:03

    Thank you so much. I really needed this today <3

    • Melitta Campbell on 28 August 2017 at 18:50

      Thanks, I’m so pleased you found it helpful x

  2. E on 17 July 2017 at 23:46

    Amazing advice! I think we all forget this sometimes.

    • Melitta Campbell on 24 July 2017 at 15:58

      Thanks, glad you enjoyed the reminder.

  3. Steven on 25 July 2017 at 15:55

    This is so true. I have always been a stronger believer in believing that you can make mistakes. The key is to recognize them, try to learn from them and move on to think of the next thing

    • Melitta Campbell on 25 July 2017 at 18:55

      Easier said than done sometimes, but you’re completely right Steven. There is no value in holding on to bad memories or mistakes – but there is usually a valuable lesson to be learned.

  4. Anthony Hughes on 25 July 2017 at 16:22

    Another song for you – I’ve got a Name by Jim Croce. There are a few lines that helped me get through a bad time – especially played LOUD just before reaching the office.

    • Melitta Campbell on 25 July 2017 at 18:51

      Thanks – I’ll have to check that one out!

  5. Paul on 25 July 2017 at 17:19

    Thank you for the advice! And the video is so funny ?

    • Melitta Campbell on 25 July 2017 at 18:49

      Thanks Paul – glad you like the video too, makes me giggle every time!

  6. Stephanie Skillman on 25 July 2017 at 21:16

    Music and dance are magic, take me aways to another realm of spirit

    • Melitta Campbell on 25 July 2017 at 21:45

      I love that Stephanie – yes, absolute magic!

  7. Bernie on 4 August 2017 at 08:44

    The next time I read a weblog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I imply, I know it was my option to read, but I really thought youd have something attention-grabbing to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about one thing that you possibly can repair in the event you werent too busy on the lookout for attention.

    • Melitta Campbell on 15 August 2017 at 11:04

      Hi Bernie, I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy this post. I understand that the message is a simple one: don’t let irrelevant negative thoughts and experience from the past affect your future success and happiness, but as it was a big issue for me, I thought it might help others too.

      However, it’s clear that this is not an issue for you, and I am very happy about that – it means your path to a happy and fulfilling future is clear and that is a wonderful position to be in. I wish you every success x

  8. Lynn Singleton on 23 November 2017 at 19:15

    There is absolutely nothing we can do about the past.No matter how much it hurt.I heard a lady say the other day. ‘I would have loved that to happen to me.That impossible now.Therefore I can’t waste the rest of my life letting it antagonise me,weigh me down’ How true.?I think we are all guilty if this.It may not be a mistake we have made.It may have been a impossibility to make this happen due to circumstances.Yet some people still think about it when there is nothing we can do about it.Therefore we could fill that space with the future.We all make mistakes and can learn a lot from them.Thank you Melitta for pointing this out.

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